overcoming

Helps for reorienting places co-opted by toxic applications of purity culture…

Disclaimer: I don’t agree with all of what these things say but I don’t agree with myself all the time either, so I’m OK with that. As with anything, these should be taken back to the overall story of Scripture and God’s heart for us. There are things in a few of these helps that I vehemently disagree with, but in some way they have helped me to ask better questions or engage with what is right and good and true in a more meaningful way. Some of these things are geared specifically for women but even still could also help men personally and also help men who want to love women well (a significant other, sisters, mothers, co-workers, etc.) do so more fully. Some of these things do not claim to come from a Christian space and say really problematic things but also really helpful things. Some of these things do claim to come from a Christian space and say really problematic things but also really helpful things. Overall though, I have been helped by these…

The Allender Center with storywork sessions, workshops, and podcasts

Anatomy of the Soul by Curt Thompson

Being Known podcast by Curt Thompson

The BEMA podcast by Marty Solomon

Beauty (seeing helps you reintegrate and unfreeze)

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Can I Say That? by Brenna Blain

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

Conversational Counseling podcast by Known Ministries (Alex Kocher and Brenda Payne)

The Deep-Rooted Marriage by Dan Allender and Steve Call

The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Wray Gregoire

Jesus and Gender: Living as Sisters and Brothers in Christ by Elyse Fitzpatrick and Eric Schumacher

Leslie Vernick’s resources

Massage Therapy

Nature (being outside doesn’t have to be all-or-nothing)

Neither Complimentarian nor Egalitarian by Michelle Lee-Barnewall

Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy (I do recommend either exercises you can do on your own OR a trauma-informed practitioner.)

People (who help you know in increasing measure that you can trust good men and/or who make you laugh)

Pilates

The Place We Find Ourselves podcast by Adam Young

Seven Desires by Mark & Debbie Laaser

She Deserves Better by Sheila Wray Gregoire

Single Ever After by Danielle Treweek

The Soul of Desire by Curt Thompson

The Soul of Shame by Curt Thompson

Swimming

Talking Back to Purity Culture by Rachel Joy Welchern

Walking

What God Has to Say About Our Bodies by Sam Allberry

Worthy: Celebrating the Value of Women by Elyse Fitzpatrick and Eric Schumacher

Yoga (especially when led by people who love Jesus)