getting someone

Girls, ladies, may I please encourage those of you who are single in this season? Especially with all of the holiday feels and the Hallmark Christmas movie magic… (True confessions: I do happen to love all the cheesy things this time of year, even if it is to make fun of them and get a good laugh. But I do just love a good predictable plot line and happy ending at Christmastime.)

I’ve had a conversation over and over with other ladies who single, and it seems like so many of us have this core fear that no one will ever want us. And in the conversation, like clockwork, there is a lightbulb moment when I assure them that simply being with someone is not hard.

Think about it, being with someone is not hard at all. All we have to do is walk out our door or get on our phone, and we can be with someone.

But a deeper question, is do you know WHO you are supposed to be and WHAT you are supposed to do?

It’s far better for us to be who we are supposed to be and do what we are compelled to do by design than to change any part of that to get a person. Because if we change to get them, we’ll have to maintain that change to keep them...or constantly be afraid that we’ll lose them. Or worse, remain and be constantly in conflict with our Maker’s beautiful design for our lives.

Please don’t change to get someone. Getting someone is easy. Please, let’s not make that our goal.

Let our goal be to be who we are called to be and do what we are called to do. And if you start to wobble, call me and we will go out for coffee and I’ll take your sweet face in my hands and remind you who you are. And ladies, I’m serious about that offer.